Being in full time ministry for over three decades,
I'm certainly all too aware of the fact that church can be a place where people hurt and disappoint one another.
I've been hurt and disappointed by others myself, and I'm sure I've failed others too.
But, I don't believe that gathering together with other believers is optional.
(You expected me to say that didn't you?)
I wrote a guest post last spring, going into this subject a bit more in depth.
If you'd like to read it, here's the link.
I once read a piece of advice that I've thought of often.
When people hurt, fail or disappoint us we need to say to ourselves,
"this just proves that God's Word is true, all have sinned and have fallen short of the glory of God."
That being said, my prayer is that God will help me to be a healer in His house, not one who wounds others.